A message from Pastor John of the Road to Freedom program.
In recovery, it’s important to rely on the fellowship. If there is one sure way to fail at living a Godly life, it’s trying to do it on your own. Whenever we try to do something without the input and accountability of others, it’s usually because we don’t want to give up doing things our own way. We are not seeking God’s best, we’re seeking control.
Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.
However, just as the Lord’s prayer begins with, “Our Father,” and the first step begins with, “We admitted,” the pursuit of God and the pursuit of sobriety were never meant to be solo endeavors. We were created for community! We need the wisdom of others, and we need them to help us see things we can’t see on our own. When we realize that we are avoiding that kind of insight and accountability, it should be a huge warning that we are headed down a path of destruction.
Regarding the pursuit of God’s will, William Wilburforce said,
“Because it is so easy to get caught in self-deception, check this with a few close friends. If you are unwilling to do this, it should be a signal that something is wrong. When you become aware of this, begin to distrust yourself. You will begin to look for all kinds of justifications to defend what you are doing. As you do, you will also find that your passion and valuation of the things of God will diminish.”
Throughout scripture, we read about the benefits of seeking advice from wise counsel, but the book of Proverbs is where we most often find this truth. Proverbs 11:14 warns us that, “Where there is no guidance, people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” In Proverbs 15:22 we are again reminded that, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”
How are you pursuing your sobriety today? Are you going it alone, or are you inviting others into your journey? If you are on your own, heed the warning of Wiberforce and “begin to distrust yourself.” It only takes speaking up at one meeting or making one phone call to someone you trust to turn it all around. Reach out today and take a step toward greater success and safety.