Turning to God is always the first step (and most important step) in recovering from dependency or other bad behavior. It is not easy to do and it can be especially difficult to convince someone else of this truth. As a Christian, watching a loved one suffer when you want nothing more than to help them is very frustrating. How do you, as a Christian, find a way to give your loved one the support they need without either enabling them or compromising your own faith and beliefs?
The good news is that you can help. Jesus Christ taught us to turn the other cheek and to forgive those that hurt us. He also was well known for his many instances of turning to the blind, poor, and others tossed out by society to offer them a helping hand. And, as a Christian, you are a minister to His people. You are encouraged to provide support and forgiveness to those in need. Within Galatians 6:2, the Bible reads, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”
How Can You Help Your Loved One?
There is much you can do, as a friend, spouse, parent, or child to help your loved one to overcome their addiction. The first step is to reach out to them and either build a relationship or nurture the one you have.
Don’t Turn a Blind Eye
It’s easy to look the other way. It is easy to use your Christian faith to condemn the actions of another person. However, it is not Christian-like to judge or to turn away from those who need help. Instead of using harsh words, sit down and talk to your loved one about their experiences and their struggles. Ask them how you can help. Ask them to get help. Let them know you care about them. In John 15:12, the Bible says, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.”
Are you showing love to others? Are you being judgmental and telling them they are failing? While you may feel need to point out sin, this kind of rebuke offers no opportunity for improvement. Showing them love, will.
Ask Yourself, What Would Jesus Do?
It may seem like a simple statement, but by reading the Bible, you’ll clearly see the examples set out for you. Consider this: addiction is a disease of the body and mind. Many people who suffer from addiction and drug abuse physically cannot control their addictive behaviors. Their body simply demands more of the substance overpowering their mind and spirit. Viewing their disease from this vantage point, ask yourself, what would Jesus do in this situation?
- Jesus would encourage you to be forgiving and honest with your loved one. Tell them the truth about their behavior and addiction. What is it doing to you? Why do you believe they are worth more than what they are?
- Jesus would tell you to support your loved one in his or her recovery. Be faithful to their belief that Jesus will heal their bodies and mind.
- Jesus would also tell you to step in and help the person that everyone else has cast aside. Even if that individual has hurt you, offer a helping hand to put them on the right track.
In Luke 6: 38 we read, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Ask yourself, what would you hope others would do for you?
Be Realistic and Love Unconditionally
How do you love someone that is abusive, lies to you and hurts you? Is it that person causing this pain to you or their addiction? While it is important to use Jesus Christ as an example and to love others unconditionally, it is also important to be realistic when it comes to drug abuse. That is, you need to establish rules and you need to encourage loved ones not to come to you for money or support of their habit. It’s tough love, but it means you truly do care.
Road to Freedom Offers a Solution
Simply, you cannot battle this war on your own. You need God and Jesus Christ by your side. Even with your own clarity of mind, if your loved one is struggling and slipping away, it becomes important for you to reach out to that person with support and care. The right drug abuse treatment can help.
At Road to Freedom, we offer a Christian-based recovery program. It begins with a medically monitored detox program and intense Christian-focused counseling. It can include family counseling as well. As an inpatient program, we aim to help individuals through a Bible study and Bible-focused counseling program. We use individual and group therapy. And, we teach your addicted loved ones how to restore their lives, their belief in God, and their relationships.
As someone who loves another person with drug addiction, it is up to you to offer the support they need. You don’t have to do this alone. That can begin with a simple phone call to Road to Freedom. To get more advice and guidance on how to support your loved one, call our confidential, free admissions line today: (844) 402-3605.