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I Do? – A Marital Struggle with Addiction

Married Couples Struggling With Addiction

Addiction and Marriage Statistics

Increase in Addiction Occurrences

Drug and alcohol addiction has seen a steady increase year over year in the past decade. Approximately 21.5 million American adults struggled with a substance use disorder in the year of 2014 (National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH, 2014). Of those 21.5 million Americans, almost 80% are dealing with an alcohol use disorder (NSDUH, 2014). The counselors at The Christian Treatment Center can help those currently dealing with a substance addiction.
The United States is currently in an addiction epidemic. Drugs and alcohol are easier to come by and people are dealing with overwhelming amounts of stress with substance abuse. Turning that stress over to a higher power can actually reduce the desire to use. In fact, according to MDPI (2014), extensive research shows that a strong affiliation within a religious community actually protects from addiction. It is also a key part in the successful treatment of a substance abuse problem.

Decrease in Divorce Statistics

Despite significant increases in those dealing with a substance addiction, divorce rates have slowly declined over the last decade. In 2006, over 10 years ago, approximately 2,193,000 per 294,077,247 divorces occurred, making it 7.5 per 1000 (Divorcestatistics.org, 2014). In 2016, the United States is down to 6.9 divorces per 1,000 total populations (CDC.gov, 2016).
The slow decrease in divorce rates per population is an indicator that married couples are sticking it out more often, despite tough situations. Married couples struggling with ‘for worse’ situations, such as addiction, are seeking out help, turning to religion, and working toward the recovery of their marriage. Hand your addiction and marriage problems to a higher power. If divorce seems like the only option in this difficult addiction cycle, the counselors at The Christian Treatment Center can be reached at (844) 402-3605, 24 hours a day. Help is confidential and there is no pressure to do anything more than call.

Addiction and How it Affects the Marriage

Christian Meaning of Marriage

The two words “I do” have a significant meaning behind them. They create a connection between you, your spouse, and God for life. These words mean that you accept one another for better and for worse. Although the good times are usually very good, the bad times are generally very difficult. Even when times get terribly hard, you have made a commitment to be there for your spouse. Above everything, love one another earnestly, because love covers over many sins (1 Peter 4:8). If you are finding it difficult to remember your Christian vows in the face of addiction, The Christian Treatment Center counselors can help with a free and confidential consultation.

Signs and Symptoms that Addiction May Be Affecting Your Marriage

Addiction is one of the most destructive and damaging things that a marriage can go through. Learning to navigate the marriage while one spouse is struggling with addiction takes a lot of work and dedication. It tests out the religious strength of your marriage. It pushes you to the ‘for worse’ limits. It can sometimes be difficult to identify the specific areas that addiction is ruining in your marriage. Identifying these struggles is often the first step to addiction recovery.
A few problems that are common in marital discord when addiction is involved include:
Enabling: Enabling is when one spouse essentially covers for the other. They may call into work for them or take care of them when they are under the influence. Enabling becomes especially destructive when it also affects the enabler’s life.
Abnormal argument styles: When drugs or alcohol change the way you argue, there may be a problem present. It affects the ability to effectively work through disagreements, putting additional strain on the marriage.
Poor financial situations: This occurs when one spouse depletes savings accounts or makes poor or secretive financial decisions to fund the addiction problem.
Domestic violence: Domestic violence caused by alcohol or drugs is never an excuse.

Do not be misled. Remember that bad company corrupts good character. 1 Corinthians 15:33. If you or your spouse is dealing with any of these tell-tale signs, consider getting in touch with a Christian counselor at The Christian Treatment Center for a free and confidential consultation.

Christian Based Addiction Help

Services Offered

You may choose to seek a counselor for marital help. You also might see a counselor for addiction treatment. When the two problems become one, however, it takes a specialized treatment counselor who is familiar with the Christian bonds of marriage being tested with addiction. Counseling may entail many different forms of treatment, including individual addiction counseling for the suffering spouse, individual counseling for the supporting spouse, couples counseling surrounding the addiction recovery, and marriage couples counseling. A few of the services you might receive from counselors at The Christian Treatment Center include:

Turning to religion has strongly been associated with positive addiction related outcomes (PMC National Institute of Health, 2014). Many empirically backed studies have shown that working specifically with a Christian based addiction treatment center can provide you with the background needed to understand and recover from addiction.

Additional Services

No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13-14). For an additional and complete list of available services at The Christian Treatment Center, contact one of our professional and confidential counselors at (844) 402-3605. They are familiar with the struggles of addiction in a religious aspect.

Is Divorce an Option?

When Children Are Involved

Marriages tend to struggle in many areas during time of addiction. Adding in children tends to complicate the situation even more. When children are involved, the steps taken will depend on their age and awareness of the situation. They may have a lot of questions about the outcome of the marriage or the person that is struggling with addiction. Failing to handle this communication in a positive and open manner can affect the family structure.

When Divorce May be an Option

Despite strong Christian beliefs, divorce may have crossed your mind a time or two during particularly difficult situations. Perhaps you are the spouse who has been mixed into the destructive patterns of a substance user. Maybe you are the person who is struggling with addiction and you feel guilt surrounding your actions. Many Christians wonder if divorce is ever an option in a Christian marriage. It depends where you look. Matthew 19:6 states that, so they are no longer two, but one. No human being must separate, then, what God has joined together. God intends for your marriage to be forever. However, Moses states two reasons for an allowed divorce.
• Adultery
• Abandonment
Adultery reduces trust and involves deception, two characteristics that go against your Christian marital vows. Some would compare the cycle of addiction to both deception and abandonment. If you feel lost in your marriage and are struggling with thoughts of divorce, our Christian counselors at The Christian Treatment Center can provide you with a free consultation.

Final Thoughts

There is a light at the end of what seems like an extremely long and dark tunnel. There is a possibility of recovery, both in an addiction and in your marriage. If your marriage can make it through this incredibly difficult time, imagine what you can accomplish together. Your marriage bond with each other, and with God, will be stronger than ever. Remember the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast (1 Peter 5:10). All it takes is the courage to make that initial call for help at The Christian Treatment Center at (844) 402-3605.

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